In life, we are often presented with lessons through less than ideal circumstances. Mine was trying to love the wrong people. In doing so, I learned a vast quantity of life lessons from some of the most painful experiences. But what I learned didn’t always make the heartache easier right away–nor did the lessons present themselves immediately. More often than not it took a while to sift through the pain, to let it go before it flitted to the surface.
Taking on Stigma
In this series I want to further explore what I’ve documented in my book Unrequited: Things I Learned from trying to Love the Wrong People. Why? Because it’s important. Because aspects of heartache, abuse, and relationships are still considered taboo. Social stigmas say we’re not allowed to discuss our heartbreak for too long, that our abuse isn’t as bad as this or that, and that we should accept invalidation as a part of our story. I say no more. It’s time that this aspect of heartache ends. I hope that you will join me in what this series will revel in: the triumph in overcoming the beliefs we form about ourselves in the midst of heartbreak.
4. Love, or even just the idea of it, makes us do crazy things. More often than not when we’re in that initial honeymoon stage we might miss things, make mistakes, stop hanging out with our friends, and get a little too wrapped up in a world we later realize wasn’t all it was cracked up to be.
But that’s okay! The reality of the situation is that we’ve all been there. We’ve all had moments, especially romantic, in which we look back and think what the hell was I thinking? And it’s kind of comforting knowing that we’re not the only ones “love” has made stupid. So instead of beating yourself up over what you might have been thinking in the midst of whatever relationship, fling, hook-up buddy, etc… revel in the fact that you’re human. Sometimes we need the wrong thing to point us in the right direction. And in order for that to happen, we need to falter a little along the way.
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