In life we are often presented with lessons through less than ideal circumstances. Mine was trying to love the wrong people. In doing so, I learned a vast quantity of life lessons from some of the most painful experiences. But what I learned didn’t always make the heartache easier right away–nor did the lessons present themselves immediately. More often than not it took awhile to sift through the pain, to let it go, before it flitted to the surface.
In this series I want to further explore what I’ve documented in my book Unrequited: Things I Learned from trying to Love the Wrong People. Why? Because it’s important. Because aspects of heartache, abuse, and relationships are still considered taboo. Social stigmas say we’re not allowed to discuss our heartbreak for too long, that our abuse isn’t as bad as this or that, and that we should accept invalidation as apart of our story. I say no more. It’s time that this aspect of heartache ends. I hope that you will join me in what this series will revel in: the triumph in overcoming the beliefs we form about ourselves in the midst of heartbreak.
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5. There’s nothing wrong with being excited. Just like there’s nothing wrong with having butterflies. But at the same time getting caught up in either or, or both, can be extremely distracting. When we get caught up in the feeling rather than the moment we miss warning signs. We end up missing the things that later get us in trouble. And those same things are often what cause us to feel like we don’t even know the person we’re with. So though there isn’t anything wrong with the excitement of something new, we need to make sure we’re paying attention to what’s happening in front of us. Paying attention, rather than letting our distractions get the best of us, shows us exactly who we’re with. And personally I’d rather know that in the beginning instead of being surprised by it later.
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