In life, we are often presented with lessons through less than ideal circumstances. Mine was trying to love the wrong people. In doing so, I learned a vast quantity of life lessons from some of the most painful experiences. But what I learned didn’t always make the heartache easier right away–nor did the lessons present themselves immediately. More often than not it took a while to sift through the pain, to let it go before it flitted to the surface.
In this series I want to further explore what I’ve documented in my book Unrequited: Things I Learned from trying to Love the Wrong People. Why? Because it’s important. Because aspects of heartache, abuse, and relationships are still considered taboo. Social stigmas say we’re not allowed to discuss our heartbreak for too long, that our abuse isn’t as bad as this or that, and that we should accept invalidation as apart of our story. I say no more. It’s time that this aspect of heartache ends. I hope that you will join me in what this series will revel in: the triumph in overcoming the beliefs we form about ourselves in the midst of heartbreak.
No Power to Change
2. It might not be something you notice at first, but emotionally abusive partners usually lack empathy. In the beginning, they will pretend to have it–especially with you. And if you’ve found yourself into the arms of a narcissistic or emotional abusive individual it’s usually because you have the type of personality that these people like to prey on. This also means that empathy is probably important to you. But as much as you wish, hope, and believe that your partner might (at the very least) have empathy for you… they sadly won’t. The power of your love, the potential of what you have to give, isn’t going to magically change them. If they lack empathy, it’s honestly better to leave.
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