In life we are often presented with lessons through less than ideal circumstances. Mine was trying to love the wrong people. In doing so, I learned a vast quantity of life lessons from some of the most painful experiences. But what I learned didn’t always make the heartache easier right away–nor did the lessons present themselves immediately. More often than not it took awhile to sift through the pain, to let it go, before it flitted to the surface.
In this series I want to further explore what I’ve documented in my book Unrequited: Things I Learned from trying to Love the Wrong People. Why? Because it’s important. Because aspects of heartache, abuse, and relationships are still considered taboo. Social stigmas say we’re not allowed to discuss our heartbreak for too long, that our abuse isn’t as bad as this or that, and that we should accept invalidation as apart of our story. I say no more. It’s time that this aspect of heartache ends. I hope that you will join me in what this series will revel in: the triumph in overcoming the beliefs we form about ourselves in the midst of heartbreak.
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- When the person we want doesn’t want us it hurts. It stings because we instantly delve into our own self-worth. “I wasn’t good enough” or “There’s something wrong with me” become our narrative. These lies seep into every aspect of our lives. We tell ourselves that no one else cares. But this is a lie. Just because the one we want doesn’t want us back doesn’t mean that no one else cares. It just means that at that time we didn’t get what we needed. Don’t listen to the lies. Listen to your heartbeat. Feel it. Inside is purpose.
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