Do what you need to do, to protect your peace.
Don't focus on trying to be 'the best'. Focus on being irreplaceable.
The essence of wisdom is to know when to be doing, and when it's useless even to try
Not all men (and especially the wisest) share the opinion that it is bad for women to be educated. But it is very true that many foolish men have claimed this because it displeased them that women knew more than they did.
Life becomes a lot easier when you learn to distinguish the difference between those who like you and those who like what you do for them.