If you don't have anything positive to contribute, don't contribute at all.
But don't let anybody rush you into a direction that pushes you further away from you. Especially men.
When Don Quixote went out into the world, that world turned into a mystery before his eyes. That is the legacy of the first European novel to the entire subsequent history of the novel. The novel teaches us to comprehend the world as a question. There is wisdom and tolerance in that attitude.
Bear in mind that you'll never be enough for someone who doesn't know what they want, so focus on being the woman you need.