Looking like everyone else is safe because you will blend in but blending in is the last thing you want, if you want to be seen and heard.
Find the boy who isn't afraid to admit that he misses you, knows that you're not perfect, but treats you as if you are.
Jasnah had once defined a fool as a person who ignored information because it disagreed with desired results.
Don't focus on trying to be 'the best'. Focus on being irreplaceable.