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It’s Not You, It’s Me … no, seriously


Knowing & loving yourself, before a relationship

Whether you are in your mid-twenties, your late sixties, or have just entered teen hood, the notion of falling in love seems to be one of the most sought out and desired things in the world. We are taught all about love and shown what it can look like, sound like, feel like – It’s everywhere we look! Books, movies, television, posters, social media … even the people around us. However, it can sometimes be very easy, to forget that being alone is perfectly acceptable and important too.


Self-love is a trait that we are having to remind people of daily, because it seems that it is a lesson in life, that gets pushed further down the priority list and is forgotten. When a child asks what is love? It would seem it is more common to give an example of love between two people. Not, an emotion that you emit for yourself. Through social media trends and fashion we see more things today encouraging self-love, as though it’s a new concept, never before heard of. Alien almost.


How do we change this?


By jumping on this trend! And if anything, getting ahead of things like this reaching a stage where they are needed to be re taught. Laying down concrete foundations in life, that instil self-love deep into our core. Taking care of ourselves to the best that we can, means that everyone is improving their life. Love between two people, is one of the most beautiful things in the whole world! Whether you are a part of it, or a witness to it. But, we cannot forget to love ourselves and be the best versions of ourselves first.

You enter and exit this world with yourself and yourself only. It’s the longest, most truest relationship you will ever have. So, surely it makes sense to love yourself and get really in tune with who you are, before doing so with someone else? Seeking out a relationship, in the hope of fixing yourself and just feeding that obsession of the ‘idea’ of love, isn’t how you should approach it.

When you realise how special you are, how precious your life and wants are, you begin to open your eyes wider. You see clearer and can focus on your own goals. Goals that aren’t going to be fixed by a significant other, having a convenient presence in your life.

If you can love yourself now, you won’t find yourself in a difficult spot of a relationship saying that oh-so famous saying ‘It’s not you, it’s me’ and actually mean it.

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A free spirit who loves to write, sing, create and share with the world through words, positive thinking and good vibes. My articles on here are heavily focused on positive thinking, creativeness and mental health.

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