Learning to voice out the worries in your head
It is currently 2017 and it would seem that people have finally begun to realise the power of talking about our feelings. It is such a wonderful tool to have in life. Communication is often the biggest hurdle when it comes to anxiety, mental health and let’s face it; everyday life! But, it would seem that society today is breaking that hurdle and learning to be more open, when it comes to ‘the feelings talk’.
Therapy, counselling, head shrink … all of those and whatever other name you want to call them, are ultimately doctors for our mind. When your arm hurts you see a doctor. When your teeth hurt you see a dentist. Therefore, it makes perfect sense that if something doesn’t feel right within your mind, that you seek help from someone. It by no means, suggests that you are weak, that you are incapable, or anything negative. Really, it means you are strong enough to give yourself the attention that your mind needs and improve your mental status. You are bettering yourself and giving yourself the chance to have the happy life you deserve.
What if you can’t afford a therapist?
Good news! You don’t necessarily have to pay a professional for help. You most likely have had free help available your whole life, without even realising! Who? You might ask … Your friends!
Friendships are one of the beautiful bonds we are given in life, that serve more than just the purpose of going to the mall on the weekends together, kicking the football around, or grabbing a pint at the local bar. Friendships are there for everything. The good, the bad and the ugly. Probably one of the greatest things about friendships; is support. Support in all areas of your life. Relationships, work, health, social entertainment and of course our emotional needs. Friends are a brilliant source of releasing pent-up thoughts swirling around in our brain and being a pair of ears to listen, when we just need those moments to vent.
You find that because your friends know you personally, they can perhaps understand any worries you may have a little better and may even be so connected to you, that they can already tell what you’re feeling and are simply there to listen to you.
It’s not always a case where your friend listens and then you have to expect an opinion of some sort back. You can be very clear about that to start with.
It’s as simple as: ” I need to talk about what’s on my mind, but I would like you to just listen, please” and no additional comment needs to be made.
What if you don’t need someone to listen?
Everyone needs to be listened to sometimes. However, some more than others and that is ok! You may find that you are not the one in need of asking someone to listen to you. Instead, you may find that you are needed to listen. Advice? Listen. Whatever they are wanting to tell you, they must clearly hold value in your listening ability and must feel the need to share their thoughts with someone. By doing so, you are, without saying it, accepting them. You are giving them a safe place, to speak about what is on their mind and are most likely helping them in the long run, by preventing them of suppressing their feelings.
Try to always listen and always try to talk through your feelings and emotions. No one wants to be the kettle that boils, or the balloon that pops! Realise that your friendships are a brilliant way to keep your anxiety levels down. Simply by using your support system and vocalising your worries.