” The only way to free yourself forward in life, is to forgive.” -Michelle Daniels
Today’s topic is a very powerful one, and one that is extremely essential for our everyday lives. As a matter of fact, this thing is so powerful, that without it.. it is simply impossible for anyone to move forward in self growth, which hinders the pathway to a happy, healthy and productive life.
That thing is forgiveness.
What exactly is forgiveness?
By definition, forgiveness is the action or process of forgiving or being forgiven; however, I want to delve deeper into it.
Forgiveness is like a key, that sets you free, any and every time you feel as if you have been wronged by someone in any way. It is literally the only fix that liberates you from injustice. Thing is.. As simple as this sounds, the actual process can be difficult for most. Through my experiences, as well as coaching others, I’ve learned that many feel as if forgiveness exonerates the wrongful act; when indeed it does the complete opposite.
Anytime we hold a grudge against someone for any wrong doing, we actually imprision ourselves. Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the person (who offended you) to die. It just won’t work that way.
It is imperative to better understand how the process of forgiveness works, so that it can be implemented, in able to save yourself from the downfall of bitterness. Bitterness is the enemy that wants to hold you back, and paralyze you from moving forward into healing, progression, strength and a brighter future. If while reading this, you find yourself stuck and stagnant in some form of unforgiveness; below are three important keys that are designed to help equip you with the freeing power you need in able to exercise forgiveness in any area of life.
- Step one deals with understanding and perspective. It is extremely important to understand that it doesn’t matter what happened, or the size of the offense, regardless of what it is, it has absolutely nothing to do with you, and it is not your fault! Ever. The person who can get to a place where they can understand that the offender, is most likely the very same person who is living in pain themselves.. unlocks a door for Perspective and Positive Change kicks in.
- Step two deals with letting go. Life has taught me many years ago, that no human being can control someone else’s behavior. We were all given a gift called free will, and at anytime, anyone has the power to choose what they will. Unfortunately.. we live in a world where many choose poor choices, patterns and behaviors; however, you have a choice on how you will allow that to affect you. Letting go basically puts you in a position to fly above the offense that has taken place. When you completely let go, you unlock another door, that will give yourself space, to heal from the pain of the offense. This is very necessary.
- Step three deals with moving forward. I truly believe there is a special power that comes along with movement. The only way to reach a destination, the only way to accomplish a goal, the only way to overcome failure, and the only way to heal from pain is by moving forward. Nothing and No one can ever grow by becoming stagnant. Just imagine a world where flowers didn’t blossom, trees didn’t grow, or grass didn’t sprout. Think about that for a second. What would that truly be like? Probably not a very pleasant to experience at all! Now ask yourself.. Is that the kind of life you want? A Life that didn’t blossom, didn’t grow, or didn’t sprout into beautiful things and relationships..? Moving forward supports letting go, and unlocks a very big door to overall growth, freedom, and eventually genuine happiness.
Sometimes forgiveness isn’t easy. I totally get it. No one wants to feel unloved, betrayed, or hurt in anyway, however, it is definitely inevitable in this world we live in. Remember this.. as long as you are dealing with humans, there will always be a need for forgiveness. Truth is.. there is a very rare beauty to the gift of forgiveness.. it has the ability to turn a tragic situation into something inspiring, impactful, and liberating; all while making you stronger, sharper, and much wiser for better opportunities that lie ahead. Hold on to forgiveness!