Everyone is like, “live in the moment, be one with the moment…”.
Well, what if the moment is very painful? What do you do then? Sit and wallow in the pain? No, you hide out in the past or the future. Now is this the best solution? Maybe not, but it’s a defense mechanism, so who are we to say why it does what it does. Yes, we can be situationally present. But for a person whose loved one has just passed unexpectedly, the mind just doesn’t even want to think about that right now. It’s too hard to contemplate such a bad scenario. This is where we have to become warriors who time travel. We move from one moment to another, to gain situational context. Instead of thinking of the death, the mind should cross-reference some situation of faith, which they could serve to reinforce our obvious need to actually be ok with what’s happening. That’s what needs to happen, but sadly the memory of faith doesn’t always pop up.
Instead, people think about a past sorrow and think that just such a trauma will continue to happen on a perpetual basis. This is why positive spiritual rituals and reinforcement is necessary. This way when darkness attacks our life, we don’t fall apart like a pile of thinly glued popsicle sticks. We can’t always be in “absolute strength mode”, but we also don’t have to come to pieces emotionally because something in the physical world didn’t meet our expectations.
The real warrior has 10 backup plans and never looks at reality as the solution…
Reality is the problem… Our effort is the solution….