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Is it your fault your partner strayed?

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Why is it not a woman’s fault if her man strays? You took all that effort to keep it together and be your best to attract him, so who is to blame when he strays? Is it his fault he doesn’t find you desirable anymore or is it yours? Sure, experts say love is blind. Who are these experts anyway who claim this to be true and who are they married to, if they are married at all? Like the Canadian singer, Alanis Morrisette once quoted in her song, Hands Clean, she says, “I might want to marry you one day if you watch that weight and keep your firm body.” Ladies, keep it together and someone might want to marry you one day, but if you let it slip, then look out. It seems to be the constant fear that women have. It also seems to be the truth 60% of the time I would suspect since 60% of marriages end in divorce. Yeah, sure they end for a variety of reasons, but what it all comes right down to is the person who once loved you so much, craved you every second of the day, romanced and seduced you, simply doesn’t want to have sex with you anymore! They have lost it for you and perhaps you let it happen.

Slowly, but surely, you did what every other woman does and what’s in our instinctual nature to do. You started putting other people’s needs before your own and that makes you a saint in everyone’s eyes. But not in your beloved partners. They want a sinner, a sexual vixen, who whips up breakfast naked and then rolls around in bed with them all day. There is a price for everything in life. The cost of the loss of attraction could very well have been the cost of a personal trainer or at the very least a gym membership. In the end, you will be paying for it one way or another. Who did this? YOU. Don’t take care of yourself and that’s what can happen. Stats show not always though. Sometimes, you stay stuck in a dead end relationship, long after it’s expired and you become content with mediocrity. There is no more passion and none of that other wonderful stuff that starts at the beginning of every relationship and yet you stay. Why? Guilt? Because you made a promise? You said you would stay forever? Even when it feels like a sentence? That is not what a relationship should feel like, but so many are stuck right there.

Slowly, but surely, you did what every other woman does and what’s in our instinctual nature to do.  You started putting other people’s needs before your own and that makes you a saint in everyone’s eyes. But not in your beloved partners. They want a sinner, a sexual vixen, who whips up breakfast naked and then rolls around in bed with them all day. There is a price for everything in life. The cost of the loss of attraction could very well have been the cost of a personal trainer or at the very least a gym membership. In the end, you will be paying for it one way or another. Who did this? YOU. Don’t take care of yourself and that’s what can happen. Stats show not always though. Sometimes, you stay stuck in a dead end relationship, long after it’s expired and you become content with mediocrity. There is no more passion and none of that other wonderful stuff that starts at the beginning of every relationship and yet you stay. Why? Guilt? Because you made a promise? You said you would stay forever? Even when it feels like a sentence? That is not what a relationship should feel like, but so many are stuck right there. That’s what I want said no one ever! Which is why I tell women time and time again who complain about their partners not giving them any attention to put yourself,

Which is why I tell women time and time again who complain about their partners not giving them any attention to put yourself, first girl! Make yourself your number one priority, because if you don’t, pretty soon, you will not be theirs. Pretty soon, someone else who is keeping themselves a priority will become more attractive to them. Then you are going to get angry! Really angry! Why? You will blame them for not being appreciative that you put yourself second. All your sacrifices you made for them and everyone else are all in vain now that they want to leave you. All of this is their fault? How dare they leave you! You are now finally forced to look at yourself in the mirror and see the truth, The truth isn’t always pretty to look at and the truth hurts. and your life and the state they have left you in. So, what is the solution? It’s the old adage, an ounce of cure is worth a pound of prevention. In this case, it’s the pounds that you have put on that would be your cure had you prevented their gain on your hips. Does it hurt you less to know this is a shitty thing that happens to so many women? No. It feels just as shitty when it happens to you. Others who have had it happen to them will come to your rescue and encourage you to put some time in and get your groove back. Truth is, if you never lost it, you maybe would not have lost them too. Make yourself a priority and always love yourself first.
– Orlena Cain

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