The notion of “we’re all just children inside trying to find our way in the dark” is a truth we sometimes forget. Ukrainian artist Alexander Milov’s sculpture speaks volumes through its two wire adult figures, each with their inner child reaching out to one another. Every one of us is stumbling not only to find each other, but to also find our way back to ourselves, to the love within.
We must know, we are simply products of our environment. Our parents did the best they knew how with what they learned from their parents and so on. Parents raise us based on their own set of limitations, beliefs and upbringing. It seems twisted, projecting their sick selves onto their children, but their perception of how life is, is very real to them.
As children, we wait for affirmation or for someone to be proud, yet sometimes it never comes. We become co-dependent or insecure. How can we expect our parents to love us when they couldn’t even love themselves?
Then we carry our pain with us as we grow older. Most of our pain is the child within us, feeling hopeless, desiring to be loved, to be accepted. The little girl or boy who needs to be nurtured, loved and told she is capable of anything she puts her mind to is now buried among a heap of adult responsibilities. Sometimes we are in so much pain, but we have really no idea why or how we ended up where we currently find ourselves. As adults, nurturing the child within is an act of self-love.
To start healing the child within, bring forth the little girl or little boy in meditation. Wrap your young self in your arms and call upon your parents, their soul essence (alive or crossed over), and ask them for what you need from them and be open to receiving it. Be willing to forgive them for not being able to give you what you needed when you were younger, but know, now they can. If more things come up for you, allow it, feel it. If it’s too painful in that moment, write it down and come back to it later, when you feel safe.
Additionally, by healing limiting beliefs taught to you growing up or from others around you, you have the opportunity to heal not only yourself but also generations upon generations of limiting beliefs. When you start to have your own children, the cycle can now be broken.
See everyone as a child, and know, everyone is doing the best they can.