Happiness doesn't depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude.
I never want to be away from you again, except at work, in the restroom or when one of us is at a movie the other does not want to see.
Don't judge a situation you've never been in.
“I finally know the difference between pleasing and loving, obeying and respecting. It has taken me so many years to be okay with being different, and with being this alive, this intense. (xxvi)
By rejecting vulnerability, you are also rejecting happiness I'm at my happiest when I'm not trying to control my heart.